Not everyone can be a caregiver. It’s not something that you develop later in life. You either have it or you don’t. Certainly you can try it and see how it goes. But I have found that it really takes a special person to be able to give unconditionally to those in need.

There are many caregivers out there whose heart was originally in the right spot. However, if they do it for a “living” it can take its toll. After awhile, their “burnout” will show itself in the process of daily caregiving. Whether it shows in their attitude or work ethic, burned out caregivers are just not doing justice to the one they care for.

Think of it this way. If you were in your 80′s and you body was failing you, your mind was slipping, you had lost many loved ones — more often than not, you struggle just to get out of bed in the morning. Hope is gone and your just riding out your time. If that is the case, would you want someone showing up to care for you who clearly is just “putting in the time?” I think not. Our elders deserve better.

If we’re “lucky” we’ll get to experience the aging process. Wouldn’t it be better if someone were to show up to help you who just couldn’t wait to try to make a positive difference in your day? Someone who was there, not because it was a “job,” but someone who truly cared and found the deeper meaning in serving others.

After all, I believe we are all here to serve. It’s not about ego, it’s about finding our path and, in some form or fashion, making a difference in the world. Those caregivers who get that concept are truly angelic. Unfortunately, not everyone can qualify for such an endeavor.

My hat is off to those caregivers who truly care and give it their all when they’re serving someone in need. It’s a noble calling and they not only benefit their client, they reap tremendous personal rewards that are priceless.

So if you’re going to care for an individual, remember that you have an obligation to give it 100% while “on the job.” If it were you needing the care, you’d hope for the same. And take care of yourself. Like the banking world, you have to make deposits before you can take withdrawals.

Tom Barton

Owner, Barton Home Care